Why the Butterfly?
The Butterfly has long symbolized a renewal of life.
The caterpillar signifies life here on earth; the cocoon signifies death; and the butterfly signifies the emergence of the dead into a new, beautiful and more free existence.
Frequently, the butterfly is seen with the word "Nika", which means victory. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross movingly tells of seeing butterflies drawn all over the walls of the children's dormatories in World War II concentration camps. Since children are intuitive, she concludes that these children knew their fate and were leaving a message.
The Compassionate Friends adopted the Butterfly as a symbol of hope that our children are living in another dimension with greater beauty and freedom, which is a comforting thought to many of us.
The Compassionate Friends
Lake and Porter Counties
We need not walk alone. We are The Compassionate Friends. We reach out to each other with love, with understanding and with hope. The children we mourn have died at all ages and from many different causes, but our love for our children unites us. Your pain becomes my pain, just as your hope becomes my hope. We come together from all walks of life, from many different circumstances. We are a unique family because we represent many races and creeds. We are young and we are old. Some of us are far along in our grief, but others still feel a grief so fresh and so intensely painful that we feel helpless and see no hope. Some of us have found our faith to be a source of strength, while some of us are struggling to find answers. Some of us are angry, filled with guilt or in deep depression, while others radiate an inner peace. But, whatever pain we bring to this gathering of The Compassionate Friends, it is pain we will share, just as we share with each other the love of our children who have died. We are all seeking and struggling to build a future for ourselves, but we are committed to building a future together. We reach out to each other in love to share the pain as well as the joy, share the anger as well as the peace, share the faith as well as the doubts, and help each other to grieve, as well as to grow. We need not walk alone. We are the Compassionate Friends.
Photograph property of Marilyn Rollins
Used with permission
Supporting Family After a Child Dies